Full Moon Ritual for Queer Pleasure

Tomorrow's full moon in Sagittarius is a love poem to curiosity, radical hope, and unquenchable Queer optimism — making this weekend the ideal time to work some dreamy, abundant, pleasure magic.

For those of us with a lot on our plate, it's likely the whole year is already planned for: appointments have been made, precious vacation days are penciled in. But what happens when we’ve set forth all these plans without taking care of ourselves first? What happens when we neglect our own well of energy, always pouring and never re-filling our Queer bods up with joy, pleasure, indulgence, and nourishment?

We can’t truly value ourselves or create boundaries around our energy if we haven't had radical self care practices modeled for us. This Sagittarius full moon is an opportunity to redirect our energy flow, dissolving our contracts with burnout and shifting instead towards alignment, adventure, and ease. Challenge yourself to make the decision to love and celebrate yourself this weekend! You are at the center of your own happiness, babe. Re-write your philosophy on self-care and worth.

This is big, life-long stuff, and these practices are the building blocks of an abundance mentality. You don’t have to be perfect; just allow your own Queer joy to make its mark on you.

The more demanding or challenging our lives are, the more rigorously we need to cultivate our own pleasure. Make desire lists weekly, dream big, give voice to your longings, fill your own cup with solitude, books, good food, orgasms, solid sleep, and whatever else makes you feel really, really good! Touch your skin, call in the sensual enjoyment of your body with bright lipstick, a dapper button-down, or a weekly breast massage. Take intentional time to be alone and separate that out from being lonely. You are amazing company. It’s time to re-learn that.

Self-care doesn't just look like baths and spa treatments: it looks like being brutally honest with yourself and your community about your capacity. Acknowledging your capacity and limits while staying soft and tender-hearted about your needs is radical self-care. Being honest is a step towards celebrating your authentic self, recognizing your needs, and honoring them. Having it all together is an illusion, witch. It’s time to get back to the wisdom you hold in your animal body — the body that carries you through this world, feels deeply, desires eagerly, sparkles like the stars you’re made of.

Take a moment to answer these questions:

• Why do you self-care?

• What motivates you to self-care?

• How do you self-care?

• Do you feel worthy of it?

Now, give yourself permission to feel desire, experience pleasure, and bask in your successes. Literally state aloud, "I am allowed to want things. I am allowed to enjoy my body. I am allowed to celebrate my radiance." Then spend some time journaling in response to these questions:

• What do you desire?

• What brings you pleasure?

• What three things are you proud of about yourself?

 You are your life’s work. What is your deepest wish? What are your gifts? Let your heart get involved, be open to new ideas, and channel your intuition. Dream big, let your feelings show, take stock of your strengths. You are worth celebrating! No matter what hardships you've endured, or how you got here, you can embody radiant pleasure.

Ritual: Celebrating Queer Pleasure

At Seagrape, baths are where we thrive. This is where we do office work, budget, have dates, and work rituals. If baths aren’t your jam, work the following ritual whatever way brings you the most joy! Treat this ritual like you’re putting it together for the greatest love of your life, the best date you’ve ever had. If you don’t have a tub or don’t do baths, set this ritual up as a Pleasure Altar, including all the same elements as offerings to your Queer, babely self.

Purify and ground before doing this work to get really clear about calling in pleasure. Put on your favorite music, dim the lights, pour yourself your favorite beverage, and dance naked in your living room to greet your body with warmth and excitement.

For this ritual, you'll need:

• A cup of Epsom salts

• Flowers (Gathered, bought, or dry. Don’t forget to leave an offering if picking your own!)

• Full fat coconut milk

• A photo of yourself or a mirror

• A purple candle

• Honey

• Body oil (We absolutely adore the soothing peppermint in Exotic Fields for this ritual!)

Salt is an amazing tool for purification. Honey will help attract your desires to you and sweeten your relationship with yourself. Milk softens the skin and bath water and is a sacred offering to your body. Pick or purchase flowers you’re smitten by! Marigold, irises, roses — whatever captures your attention and is in season where you are is perfect. The purple candle calls in wisdom, guidance, and balance for this work. 

Place your cup of salt in a bowl, and if you desire, add any beloved essential oils you have on hand. A few drops of bergamot or rose are ideal if you have them! Feel free to omit the essential oils and instead add a splash of your favorite body oil to the salt. Add 1-3 tablespoons of milk and honey to the bowl and mix all the ingredients thoroughly.

Take the mixture and hold it in front of you. Refer back your written reflections about desire, pleasure, and pride. What brings you pleasure? What do you desire? What gets you excited and lit up? Send a prayer, a song, a poem, or a whisper into your bath mixture about your desire. Call in the kind of loving care you’re ready for right now. Demand what you deserve. This is your birthright.

Fill the tub with warm water and add your mixture in. Set up a bathside altar with the mirror or photograph and purple candle surrounded by the flowers you’ve picked or purchased. Add some flowers directly to your bath water if you’re called to do so. Light the candle and climb in. Once you’re settled, gaze at your face in the mirror or at the photograph. Speak the three things you’re proud of to your reflection. Tell yourself what you desire. Hold gratitude in your heart for your truth and bravery as you look at your face.

Feel the water soothe your hard edges, turn you soft and sweet. Feel the blessings of this small act of self-care radiate out with your gratitude. A full moon in Sagittarius favors illuminating truth and standing in your integrity. We're wired for continuous creation and re-creation, babe. This means anything is possible — and it starts with naming your desire! Take a moment to journal anything that’s coming up for you after you complete your ritual.